The Caboose is 4 1/2 and 7 years behind her brothers and to be honest?
I love it so freaking much.
Here are 6 reasons why having a bigger gap between your babies is awesome.
1. Less carseat buckling
My boys have been able to buckle and unbuckle themselves for a while now, which means I only have to worry about getting The Caboose in the car. I can't even explain how happy this makes me.
2. The older ones are actually helpful
I remember trying to send a 2 1/2 year old Stinky to the nursery for a diaper after a particularly crazy blow-out and having him come back an eternity later bearing a binky.
Early one morning a couple weeks ago I heard The Caboose happily squealing in her room. I dragged myself out of bed to get her only to discover that Stinky and Baby 2 had gotten her out of her bed, changed her diaper, and gotten her dressed for the day (complete with headband). They were reading her stories by the time I got there.
They can make bottles. They can find binkies. They can entertain her in a manner that does not make me fear for her bodily safety. And they love it. It's fantastic.
|Checking out her umbilical cord|
3. They understand that sometimes the baby's needs come first and they are able to wait patiently
You cannot explain to a 2- or 3-year-old that the baby is eating therefore mommy is stuck to the couch for 10 more minutes and cannot get the toy out from behind the bed (cue meltdown).
Five and seven-year-olds, however, totally get it. Sometimes there is a delay on lunch because the baby needs something and that's fine.
4. They have different kinds of needs
Babies and toddlers need you in such a constant and physical way and it's a little exhausting. Older kids don't. I feel like I have a lot more to give ALL my kids because they're in different stages and require different things from me. The Caboose needs me to do everything for her but it's a physical kind of need. The boys need me to listen, validate and explain- their needs are more emotional and intellectual these days. I feel like there's enough of me to go around.
5. It's like going back in time
Stinky and Baby 2 were close enough that I didn't relive that "first baby" feeling. I was still in baby and nap mode so not much really changed- we just added a kid to our existing schedule.
With The Caboose, though, it feels like starting over. We're back to diapers and naps and tiny socks in the laundry. Also, both of my older boys will be in school starting in August so it'll be just me and The Caboose at home during the day. I haven't had that in 7 years! We can go to library story time and the mommy & me activities that I couldn't do with two kids after Baby 2 came along. It's a bit of a time warp and I'm loving it!
6. The older ones get to feel all the excitement
You should have seen their faces when we told them there was a baby in my tummy. Throughout my whole pregnancy and these first 9 months of The Caboose's life they've been along for the ride with us and they are every bit as excited as we are (if not more) at every milestone. They were her biggest cheerleaders when she figured out how to crawl last week. When we went on her first hike back in March Baby 2 told everyone we passed, "THIS IS MY BABY SISTER'S FIRST HIKE! SHE'S A HIKER NOW!" I feel like their excitement is helping me to remember what a miracle babies are and how big each milestone is!
How did you space your kids? Are you a fan of having them close together or do you appreciate the bigger gaps?
Like this post? You may also like The Caboose's birth story!