Freckles in April: The Importance of Thank You

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

The Importance of Thank You

I'm normally the type of person who uses January 1st as an incentive to make a fairly long list of resolutions to work on over the course of the year. I love the chance to evaluate my life, my successes and my failings and make goals accordingly.

Not this year.

When January 1st rolled around I knew that 2014 would be crazy. We were under contract for our new house, which we knew would require a whole lot of work. After years of waffling we finally decided to see if a 3rd baby was in the cards for us. I knew any resolutions I made would be forgotten as soon as we closed on the house or I got a positive test, whichever came first (it was the test. Plus a lot of vomiting).

I did make one goal though: write more thank-you notes. I bought a box of cute notes in January and was determined to send them all out by the end of the year.

The first few months of the year were rough. This pregnancy reached its most difficult and scary time right as we were preparing to load up the borrowed trailer. I found myself with piles of boxes to pack, move, unpack and TWO houses to clean plus fresh doctor's orders to take things very easy. Not to mention a family to feed and care for. I was exhausted, nauseous, and completely overwhelmed.

People stepped up. Friends and family came over to help me pack. They made us dinners. They carried things too heavy for me. They cleaned. They wrote notes and brought flowers when we found out one of our twin babies no longer had a heartbeat.

I wrote a lot of thank-you notes. Through the fog of grief, exhaustion, and nausea, writing those notes helped me, more than anything, to recognize the good that was going on around me so that I didn't dwell quite so much on the hard things. I wasn't perfect at it (I missed a lot of people!) but I made it through that box of thank you notes in less than 5 months. I originally set my goal just because it was good etiquette but I kept up with it for totally selfish reasons. Writing those notes was the perfect therapy.

Tiny Prints just sent me a whole new stack of pretty, sparkly gold thank you notes to start working through. Life has calmed down a lot lately but I've got a baby shower coming up (and, you know, a baby!) so I've got plenty more thank you note writing opportunities on the horizon. It's a habit I'm glad I've picked up!


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  1. Oh Kayla, I had no idea that you lost a twin. I am so sorry for your loss. There are not words.

  2. I didn't know either! I'm so sorry. :(

  3. The twin info was news to me also -- I may have missed it somewhere, or maybe you just now blogged about it. I am so sorry! But I hear you on the thank you thing....I never usually get past a text or email to thank people for stuff. I even own some pretty Kate Spade cards that I should probably use more than I do.

  4. I'm sorry for your loss. :(

    I always keep blank cards in my glove box so I can write thank-you notes -- and any kind of note, really -- on the fly. Saved my butt a time or two!

  5. I have read your blog off and on & I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. In all of that going on & you are trying to work on thanking others more. Proof of a sweet heart!


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