Freckles in April: Vested. Also: Thoughts on Blogging

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Vested. Also: Thoughts on Blogging

Forever 21 vest and jeans and bangles (this is almost everything I own from there, actually), Target shirt, TOMS shoes


Do you blog? If so, do you tell people you know in real life about your blog?

I have a confession: I am thoroughly embarrassed by this blog. I call it my silly vain little hobby. I hid it from most of my real life friends for a while (still do, to an extent) and am almost always a little horrified when it comes up in conversation with non bloggers (they just don't get it, you know?). I am definitely not one of those people who shares their blog posts on Facebook. In fact, I haven't even liked my own Facebook page because then people I know might see it.

At church a few weeks ago a friend of mine introduced me to a woman who had just moved into our ward as, "This is Kayla. She has a fashion blog." And I died a little inside.





We had dinner at my in-laws last week and I arrived late, after my husband had apparently already told some visitors about my blog. I took a seat and my blog came up and I tried to start talking about our family blog and they were like, "um, no, the other one." I spluttered an explanation and I could feel my face getting hotter and hotter..."Um...you're turning kind of red." Yes, well. That happens.

When people find out I blog I kind of wonder if they start to see me as one of those people who lives in their parents' basement and plays a lot of Dungeons and Dragons. Is blogging mainstream enough now that I don't have to be embarrassed anymore? Cool people blog too, right?

How do you handle the blog/real life divide?


40 comments:

  1. Unless you're blogging about dungeons and dragons, I think you're fine. Especially when you look at your numbers - you know you must be doing something right!

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  2. We feel the same way! No body knows about my blog not even my fiancée and family they doesn't know a thing! My sister and Dad take me the pictures and they doesn't know for what I'm using them. Oh well! I'm a little shy to tell.


    http://fashioddict.blogspot.com/

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  3. I think blogging is mainstream enough to talk about it. Most people know someone who blogs, but most people don't know someone who has a successful blog with a big readership. Your friends and family introduce you as "Kayla with the blog" because they think it's neat and they're proud of you. Embrace it!!

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  4. On second thought, only a few of my friends have a link to my blog... I never name anyone (nicknames, only!), but I've had bad days when I complain about people (yes... even my friends annoy me sometimes), and I don't necessarily want to have to do damage control. I've deleted a lot of the cranky-pants posts, but I just don't want to risk it.

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  5. I haven't really told anyone in real life about my blog but my sister did discover it recently through Pinterest. Even though it's a fashion blog, I guess I like having the freedom of being able to discuss things in my life without having to worry who's reading it. I also freak out if the neighbors see me take photos because I'm convinced they think I'm a major weirdo for posing for photos on my block.

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart

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  6. Yep, I totally understand. To the point that my blog is completely anonymous. I never tell anyone about it because I don't want anyone to know it's me. But I write about a lot more personal things. In your case, I doubt you need to be ashamed.

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  7. As your sister, I can tell you that you should NOT be ashamed and I have, on many occasions, wished I could blog like you do.

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  8. I keep mine under wraps because I don't want my stories to be scooped, like this:

    Me: This super funny thing happened to me --
    Other Person: Oh, yeah, I read it on your blog!
    Me: ...

    END OF CONVERSATION.

    Specifically, I do not want my MIL to get wind of the blog. If that ever happened, she would become my most rabid reader and commenter, and then she would tell my stories to death FOR me. Just, please, no.

    (I know, I have control issues.)

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  9. I'm with you Kayla-
    My grandmother just found out and I was mortified. The thing that I try and remind myself amongst the few unwanted little remarks is that blogging has helped me get more out of life, it's allowed me to reflect on the great things that are going on and celebrate our adventure. Non-bloggers don't get it....but I'm not doing it for them....
    (I usually have to repeat that to myself about 10 times before I put up a new post after I have run into someone and felt embarrassed.)
    I love what you do, by the way - :)

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  10. I am the same way! Ha ha!

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  11. As someone with two small blogs that mostly only friends read, I obviously don't mind :-) I don't go on and on about it to strangers or my coworkers but if someone asks I'll tell them. Considering I met my current best friend via my running blog I think it's a pretty cool medium.

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  12. I'm kinda on the fence, I feel weird if people I see everyday read mine but I also love it when people from way back when read and comment. But when it's all said and done I'm cool with the whole thing, usually, most of the time... If I were you I'd be super proud of what you do. I love the way you interpret mom clothes and make them look good.

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  13. I've been blogging for 6 years now and I know a lot of people in my real life read it, and I don't mind. Very few--VERY FEW--of my real life people comment, so I can usually pretend they don't exist. That being said, when my Dad or my older brother mention something casually that they gleaned from my blog I get all giddy-happy inside. When they both started to participate in my little, insignificant photography challenge I was high as a kite. There isn't anything online I am embarrassed about, and I really appreciate the (mostly positive) comments from blog readers, both online friends and real life individuals.

    Own it. You're a legit blogger. :)

    xox

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  14. Personally, I love sharing my blog with people now, though when I started, I felt really foolish doing so. I mean, it seems pretty much as vain as you can get--taking photos of yourself, putting them on the internet for all to see, getting feedback, etc. But then I thought to myself about the real reasons that I love blogging--meeting people, getting inspiration from other people's style, sharing my style (not my face or my hair or my body). And the more and more time I started putting into my blog, the more pride I had in it. Although I don't get paid to blog, I spend a lot of time and energy into my blog. I had told my immediate family, but not my friends. My family got so pumped about my blog and proud of me that it got me amped up to share my blog. Now I love when people read my blog. Not all my friends read my blog and not everyone who reads my blog likes it, but I like it and I am proud of it and I think that's all that matters. I think you have a lovely blog! You should be proud of it and share it with the world! Well, you already are, but I mean your world. ;-)

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  15. I think that, while style blogging comes with its own set of stereotypes, the "loser who lives in her parents' basement" is definitely NOT one of them. That being said, I was mortified last Christmas when my entire extended family started talking to me about my blog. No joke, I blushed the whole time. And they weren't even teasing me! They were complimenting me! I totally get the embarrassment factor.

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  16. First, let me just say that whatever you've done to your hair is AMAZING! You look SO gorgeous!
    Second, only 2 people in "real life" know about my blog, my husband and my mom. My real life friends all have different types of blogs of their own, none of them a fashion blog, but because they think I'm the only one without a blog they often talk about each other's blogs to me and tell me how "lame" they think the other's blogs are. I'm not sure if I personally could handle some judging so I just decided not to tell them about mine. It may be lame, but it's mine and I love it!

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  17. I've been toying with the idea of starting a new blog so I can let the current one be just about my family and the new about...well, other stuffs. But I'm TERRIFIED of trying to "publicize" the new blog on Facebook or elsewhere. The current debate is over what I value more: getting lots of exposure (and hopefully lots of readers) or feeling comfortably anonymous. Glad to know I'm not alone in feeling this way.

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  18. I am soo the same. I write two blogs, one for family and friends and the other for strangers. It's weird, I know.

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  19. i think that you shouldn't be ashamed at all of your blog. i love it, and i wouldn't be embarrassed at all to tell anyone about it (if i was the author of it, that is)
    just think of all the lives you've touched. nothing at all to be quiet about.

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  20. This is really funny to me. I haven't told anyone about my blog, and I've been keeping up with it for half a year or so. I finally have started commenting on others' blogs and officially following them. Well, now you know that one more person knows about your blog!

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    1. Whoops - I put the wrong blog link. This one is the right one: thephilosophicalfashionista.blogspot.com

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  21. When I started blogging in 2006, I was so excited that I had learned a new hobby (knitting) and found blogging that I told all my family. I thought it would be a really fun way for them to see me, most don't live near me and we could all keep in touch. HA, that never happened! So now that I have moved on to more of a lifestyle blog, I tell no one. My mom asks if I still blog every now and then, but when she visits my blog she usually makes some off-handed comment about what I blog about. SO, no I keep it pretty hush, hush!

    With all that said, I really enjoy blogging. It's fun and it connects me with people who have the same interests as me. Thanks for blogging, I really enjoy your blog and the fun Fashion Challenges!

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  22. Oh, I am horrified by my blog. It's my main goal in life to make sure no one I know in person reads it, but my husband is always telling the neighbors accidentally, etc. It's highly traumatic.

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  23. I can relate to so many of these comments! My husband has always known about my blog, but it took a while for me to tell others. There are definitely people I try and keep it from (in-laws and my Grandma specifically), for the same reasons that RA stated above. I was embarrassed for a while too, but once people found out, they were really supportive! My mom loves it, and people I don't live near anymore enjoy seeing what I'm up to. It's also great to not have to feel like I'm lying by omission when people ask "so how do you spend your time?"

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  24. i kept it a secret for a while (not hidden but not out there either). then i was doing a giveaway and some other stuff and wanted more followers (greedy i guess). now i have a lot of family and friends that follow and it is a little embarrassing. mostly, i wish that i could share things there that these peeps didn’t see. i think i would be more open if less people knew about it. i never post outfit pics until i did 30 for 30. then when i found that some people were following i got really self conscious of posting pictures of myself.

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  25. Totally cute pictures!! I love your blog. Don't be embarrassed!! ...if you're like me you probably just don't like being put on the spot or gushed about in a group setting. Your blog is great & so fun to read.

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  26. I totally feel the same way. When real-life friends actually followed me on Pinterest I went 'OH NO! THEY WILL LEARN MY SECRET'
    But the cat is out of the bag now, I am still a little embarrassed about it sometimes but mostly consider it a cute personality quirk.
    Your blog is totally one of the 'cool kids' all the other blogs which they were it. So don't fret to much :)

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  27. I try to be honest about it. I love it, and I know people don't "get it," so I think that makes me stand up for my little weird hobby. I still get embarrassed sometimes, but I try to shrug it off. I mean, I put pictures of my clothes on the internet! I have to face that reality some time! EEEEEEK!!!

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  28. I have a teeny tiny speck of a blog, and no I do NOT tell people about it. I feel like non blogging people just don't get it at all and would think I'm a freak.
    You look great, love the outfit as always.

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  29. Oh, I am the same way - even talking to a family member about my blog makes me squirm. I've always felt weird when people talk to me about things I've written though. But then again I like to have an audience... so I say let's just keep it in the virtual world (especially now that I post outfit photos sometimes - it's just downright weird for my father-in-law to talk about my style, even if he is saying only kind things).

    p.s. do you like the new Toms flats?! I still need to go try them on but have been seriously considering a pair now that I've worn through my regular Toms. They are soooo cute with this outfit.

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  30. My close friends in real life know about my blog and a few of my aunts do. And while my mom has popped on occasionally, I think she mostly doesn't understand the community and reason behind blogging. (Explaining Twitter to her was a A TRIP.)

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  31. Am I the only one who has this problem the other direction, as a person who reads many blogs? Something comes up and I want to mention a relatable story, like how you might say "The same thing happen to my sister!" but its NOT my sister, its a complete STRANGER whose blog I stalk who I feel like I'm practically friends with even though they don't know I exist, so my relatable story ends up like "The same thing happened to...someone I ...know"

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  32. Non-bloggers just don't get it! I always feel weird telling people, "I take lots of pictures of myself for people I don't know to see." Sometimes when I'm begging Dork to take pictures, he'll let a comment slip to someone we know, so I have to give him a really good glare. However, I recently told my parents, grandparents, and Dork's mom, and I'm okay with that. My mother loves it so much she keeps telling other family members about it and telling me to quit keeping it a secret. Perhaps one day.

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  33. I can't bring myself to talk about it to people I know! A few weeks ago my husband mentioned something about my blog to my sister-in-law and I was mortified!

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  34. I don't usually tell people about my blog.

    It also weirds me out when people casually mention it in conversation! A friend of mine recently was like "oh yeah, I read that on your blog." Scariest thing ever to hear (well, maybe not the scariest, but still pretty freaky)!

    My mom is always telling me things like "oh yeah, your sister is always calling me and going 'did you know Cortney owned x, y, z?'"

    I try to pretend people I know aren't actually reading my blog, however. It makes it a little easier for me to post!

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  35. Darling! I'm totally loving this outfit, especially the vest and the bangles. It adds so much to the ensemble.

    So funny about people in real life knowing about your fashion blog. It's sort of like lurking in someone's life because bloggers give of themselves and readers don't always share in return.

    Sarah
    Cable Car Couture

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  36. I don't tell anyone about it. There are a few people IRL that know about it, but that's because they blog too. I would be totally embarrassed. My hubby's friend's found it, and I was a little embarrassed. I don't put anything that would be embarrassing on here, but still... it is something that I want to keep secret. My hubby's mom found my blog, because someone posted a link to my blog on my facebook. I couldn't take it down, because I was away from my computer for a week and didn't know it was there. When I found out, I was mortified! Since then, there has been drama with it (not recently), but people were reading it that shouldn't have been and were reading way too into something that wasn't there.

    When I was in a graduate school class, blogging got mentioned and people laughed, because they thought it was dated. I was thinking to myself, little do they know..... It was kind of offensive lol

    I think it my IRL friends that don't blog knew about it, they would be scared because I am so "open" on the internet and share so much of my life. Non-bloggers don't get it.

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  37. I told my real life friends via facebook when I started to help kick it off but am mortified when it comes up in in-person conversations. Isn't that funny? I don't think you should be embarrassed nor should I but here we are. So just know you are not alone and I understand!

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  38. I am with you there-- I don't mention my blog to real-life people and I never post it on facebook. It just feels weird.

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  39. Yeah, I know exactly what you mean! I don't tell that many people about my style blog, even less from my workplace. It is a weird thing to explain to non-bloggers. Thank goodness my husband is also a blogger -- and the one behind the camera -- so I get lots of support at home. :)

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