Freckles in April

Tuesday, August 13, 2019

I Spent Money on My Skin. And Now I'm Writing About It

There's this podcast called Be There in Five and she just did a "deep dive"on Mormon Mommy Bloggers and it really took me back to Ye Olde Golden Age of Blogging where I'd just sit down every day and chat about whatever my heart desired and people would comment and we'd have conversations and I felt like I had these lovely friends all over the US (and some places outside the US too). Ah, the nostalgia.

By the end of the 2 hour (!!) podcast episode I had Blogger opened in a tab in my browser. I didn't know WHAT I wanted to write about but I just kind of wanted to write. For the memories, you know? For the sheer joy of letting the words pour from my finger tips and then chuckling at my own cleverness (I've always been my own biggest fan. Narcissism! The cornerstone of a successful blogging career!).

Then I remembered a post I wrote back in the day about the changes I saw after I used retinol for six months and figured I might as well do an update. That was four years ago, which isn't SO LONG but long enough that I'm now Mid Thirties and my husband just turned FORTY (perk of being married to an older man: I always feel like a spring chicken) and I reached the point where I was like, "Ok, not getting younger, time to put some money into my face."

I was definitely inspired by Jenny Komenda and her Instagram stories about going to see an esthetician to address some things that bothered her about her skin. My skin has always been the thing I'm most self-conscious about. I had teenage acne and then I had scarring and then I got older and had a bunch of sun damage and I just...didn't love it. I am all about self-love and acceptance but if there's something that bothers you and you have the means and desire to address it, then why not?

SO I made an appointment at Laser Smart Skin in Gilbert after seeing that Camille had gone to see them (and Marco Poloing her about it to hear her honest opinion). Dana seemed super knowledgeable and I was really interested in trying out their Visia camera.

Eight images showing varying types of skin damage

The Visia camera takes an unflinching look at your skin and what's going on in there. Lower percentages are not better so you can draw your own conclusions from the 1% and 4% sections up there. If I could have a chat with 15-year-old Kayla we'd definitely discuss sunscreen usage.

My consultation was interesting because it helped me figure out what was really bothering me with my skin. I thought it was a texture issue due to acne scarring but, as it turns out, my texture is actually pretty good. The sun damage and brown spots, however, were making my skin look blah.

Dana and I had a good chat about options and she was confident that an IPL photofacial treatment would get me the results I was looking for. It pulls sun damage up to the surface and then slowly sloughs off, leaving you with prettier, cleaner looking skin.

The treatment itself was a bit intense but still doable! It's like concentrated electric shocks that leave your skin feeling hot and a little raw. My toes were curling near the end but then it was done. Afterward, she had me sit with a mister and fan for a while to cool my skin down. She gave me an ice pack for the trip home and I was glad to have it in my hot car (you know that feeling when you have a sunburn and then step into a hot shower? Similar). I was red and a little swollen for a couple hours afterward but looked ok by the evening. I went to book club that night and no one was like, "So, what exactly is going on with your face?"

First thing in the morning selfies from day 1, day 2, day 3, and day 7 post-treatment. I think the pictures look scarier than I did in real life. A little makeup had me looking pretty normal.

Over the next few days I was a little puffy and my freckles (and other spots) started coming in really dark. By day 4, though, the puffiness was gone and my spots slowly started to fade and slough off. After one week I only had a few dark spots left (mostly lower on my jawline) and they were totally gone by the two week point.

Post care is straightforward- baby your skin. Gentle cleansers. No scrubbing. Stay out of the sun.

After a couple weeks with a lot of babying my skin looked...ok. The brown spots were gone! But it was dull and congested from the lack of exfoliation and active ingredients. I went to Dana for a follow-up appointment and ended up doing a Hydrafacial (like a power wash for your pores!) and walked out looking like the very best version of myself, which is honestly more than I knew to hope for from my treatments. My skin has been happy and glowing ever since.

For the sake of comparison, here are my 2015 "after" pics compared to pics I took post-shower this morning:

I'm actually a lot less red now than the lighting would have you believe. Wearing BB cream and powder in the top pics, no makeup in the bottom

The most marked difference is in my left cheek (far right in the pics above). That's the side that's in the sun when I drive so it had more sun damage than the right side. It's been crazy to see how much that side improved!

I was so pleasantly surprised by how much progress my skin made so quickly. These days I only wear tinted sunscreen (this one is AMAZING) and a little translucent powder on my T-zone to cut the shine.

That's it for my skin! Living my best low-maintenance life! Happy skin plus short hair has made my life SO EASY.

When I posted about this on Instagram stories a bunch of people asked about cost. It's not super cheap but I ended up coming in under my budget. The IPL treatment was $350 and Hydrafacial was $179. I'm pretty much always willing to get a Groupon when it comes to facials and whatnot but, when it comes to the heavy duty stuff, I save up my pennies then go to really solid people. Dana spent ten years training estheticians to use lasers and whatnot and then she got tired of the travel and decided to set up her own shop. She is insanely smart and passionate about her craft and I felt really comfortable putting my skin in her hands. I appreciated how dedicated she was to getting my skin to a good place. It was an investment and, for me, totally worth it.

Have you tried IPL or any other kind of heavy-duty skin treatment? How was your experience?

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Wednesday, February 27, 2019

Relay! Because We are Grumpy Old People Who Don't Want to Give Our Kids Cell Phones

Not sponsored. We bought and paid for these with our own money.

My boys are at an in-between stage. They're 11 and 8, which means they're old enough to be allowed some freedom to wander but not old enough for cell phones. I love letting them roam- they hop between friends' houses, ride their bikes in the desert, go to the park- but I HATE when I can't find them.

I hate having to text all their friends' moms to see if my kids are at their houses. I hate driving around looking for them because they didn't come home when they were supposed to. I REALLY hated the one time when no one seemed to know where my oldest was and I was driving around getting more and more panicked and wondering if he was in the back of someone's van driving to his doom (he was at a friend's house in the next neighborhood over).

Aaron and I wanted to try Gizmo watches but they're a Verizon thing and we have AT&T. We looked at a bunch of other watch options but they were all really expensive, had significant limitations, features we didn't want, or all of the above.

Then Aaron stumbled upon Relay. It's essentially a phone that doesn't have a screen and can only call within the channels you set up. There are no games, no internet access, etc. We gave each of our boys their own unit for Christmas and when I shared them on my IG story it became apparent that lots of people are in the same boat and looking for non cell phone options.

It's been two months and I can tell you that they aren't perfect but they work pretty darn well. They're also still fairly new and some of the issues I've experienced have already been resolved. The company is actively working on improving their product, which I appreciate.

Questions people asked on my initial IG story:

1. How much does it cost?

The units themselves are $50 and the service costs $10 per month. We felt that was really reasonable compared to cell phones!

2. Does it have a distance limit?

Nope! It connects over a cell network so it's kind of like a cell phone and a walkie talkie had a baby.

3. Does it have GPS?

YES. I love this function so much. It's nice to be able to quickly check where my kids are.

4. How do you talk to them?

There's an app. They carry their units with them (they're pocket sized) and I can talk to them or check their location via the app.

They're fairly shallow and slide easily into my boys' pockets

Everyone kind of had to get trained on how to call each other (they have to send me a "channel alert" then wait for me to see the notification on my phone and open the app to respond). The devices themselves are pretty simple though- you press and hold the button while you're talking and then let go when you're done. The sound quality is good, not great. It's fine for quickly relaying information but I wouldn't want to have a longer conversation. Which brings me to-

It became apparent VERY quickly that we had to set rules for how the Relay should be used. My boys got real chatty at first and kept calling me to ask questions about dinner or tell me about the game they were playing with their friend. I finally told them that the Relay is JUST for calling for help or telling me where they are. Conversation can wait until they get home.

Another slightly annoying thing is that when I get a Relay notification on my phone I feel like I need to open the app and respond immediately. However, half the time it was an accidental button push (there is a "lock" feature that we are trying to get them to use) or they are calling their brother to see where he's at. We set up a separate channel for them to call each other without blowing up my phone with notifications but if they forget to change the channel back then I can't call them. This is probably my biggest complaint and it really only applies to people with multiple children using the service. I brought it up with their support team and they know it's an issue and have been working on some solutions.

Overall we've been really pleased. It's allowed us to give our kids even more freedom without all the expense and baggage of giving them cell phones. My kids like that they can always get a hold of us and that they don't have to come home every time they change locations to let us know where they'll be. It's a solid option for kids in that in-between place!


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Monday, January 7, 2019

4 Things I Learned from Our 6 Month Spending Fast

Picture from our summer trip to the redwoods

In 2018 I set a resolution to go on a spending fast. I wrote:

Every time we go through our finances we cringe a little at how much money we spend. I decided (and made everyone else get on board) that for 6 months we are only going to buy things we have consumed or used up and need to replace. I want us to think a lot harder every time we reach for our credit cards. Plus this will allow us to save up for a summer trip we're trying to plan.

I was initially inspired by Miranda's More Than Enough Stuff experiment but Christmas 2017 was bonkers and I just felt overwhelmed by our family's consumerism. I knew six months of not buying new junk wouldn't hurt us.

Aaron forgot about his commitment to the idea almost immediately (if you were married to him you would not be remotely surprised by this). What was supposed to be a family goal ended up just being a Kayla goal. It became a test of my endurance and commitment and I'm proud to say that I mostly stuck with it and learned some really interesting lessons along the way.

1. Sometimes online window shopping scratches the itch

Right off the bat I realized I have a bit of a shopping compulsion. Checking my fav sites for sales or new items was such a big part of my routine that I seriously struggled to stop myself from looking. I assumed that looking would lead to buying and then I'd have lost the battle. But! I was wrong. Looking (and even adding items to my cart) didn't lead to buying. It just allowed me to look at and dream about pretty things without spending any money. Then I'd close my browser window and move on with my life with that same sense of satisfaction.

2. That feeling of NEEEED fades faster than you'd think

Early on I decided that I would ask for gift cards for my birthday to buy some of the things that I was dyyying over. It was my loophole. I made a private Pinterest board and used it to keep track of all the things that I would have immediately bought for myself if I hadn't been on a spending fast. But when my birthday rolled around and I looked at my Pinterest board I realized I didn't particularly want or need anything on there anymore.

That was a huge light bulb moment for me. So many of my purchases are made on the basis of instant gratification. Putting items on a Pinterest board and coming back to them later has given me a better perspective as to what I actually want versus what makes me feel good in the moment. I've started really dragging my feet when I buy things for myself. I just barely pulled the trigger on the Everlane wrap dress I've wanted for months. I wanted to make sure my excitement about it didn't fade before I spent the money.

3. Things wear out fast

I thought our shopping would drastically drop off but, as it turns out, we go through stuff really quickly. We're a fairly active family and our shoes do not last long. My kids are growing and speeding through clothes so quickly I can't keep up (I finally got StitchFix boxes for my boys. LIFE CHANGING. I'm planning to write about it). I cook a lot and occasionally ruin clothing. I was surprised how often I still had to buy shoes or replace clothing (I did make efforts at repair!). This actually made me feel a lot better about my previous shopping habits- some of it was definitely unnecessary but plenty of it was replacing the things that a very busy and active family wears through.

4. Buying things is SO MUCH FUN when you're not buying much

A few months in I managed to wear holes through one of my very favorite tank tops that I wear all the time. In the spirit of my resolution I replaced it with essentially the same thing- same brand, color, and a very similar style (the original was no longer available). Placing that order and waiting for the package to arrive was SO EXCITING. Even though the item itself wasn't novel (almost the exact same as the one I had before!) I could. not. wait. It had been months since I had the chance to anticipate something coming for me in the mail. When the shirt arrived I felt deeply satisfied. The whole experience was so different from what I'd been experiencing before, which was more or less like, "Wait that package is for me? What did I even order??"

Replacement tank top in action while looking through antique shops with friends in June

After six months of extremely limited spending I thought I'd go a little wild but mercifully that wasn't the case. I did buy a few things but, because I had spent 6 months thinking about what I really wanted, the things I got were deeply wanted and appreciated. Those habits have carried over (mostly. I'm not perfect). I sit on things for a while before I buy. If something arrives and I don't LOVE it then I return it. I really enjoy receiving the odd package in the mail. I generally feel more content with my possessions.

So in a year that didn't go quite the way I wanted, I'm grateful that one of my resolutions worked out really well for me and gave me a chance to learn and grow!

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Wednesday, January 2, 2019

2018 Resolution Report (or: How I Failed in 2018)

Hiking in Sedona with my blonde hair that lasted for like three seconds because it was insanely high maintenance

I've said it before and I'll say it again: I LOVE making resolutions for the new year. I love lists, I love planning, I love setting goals. Resolutions are my jam and I'm generally really good at keeping them. Normally I can go through my list at the end of the year and think, "check...check...check..." and bask in a sense of accomplishment and growth.

2018 was not that kind of year for me and my resolutions (which you can find here). Let's take a look:

1. Read to my kids more

I think this one lasted for maybe two weeks. I made a few more attempts throughout the year but we just couldn't ever seem to hit on a book that we were all interested in. I really do believe in the value of reading aloud to your children but, for some reason, it's a struggle for us. For example, we all love Harry Potter individually but cannot seem to read it together as a family. We probably need therapy as there is clearly something wrong with us.

2. Keep to our schedule

This was totally doable in wintertime but was much harder in the summer when the sun was basically still shining in my kids' windows at bedtime. I can't say this was a complete failure but it wasn't a win either. We did our best.

3. Go on a spending fast

This was likely my most successful resolution, though it petered out a bit at the end. I learned some really valuable lessons from it though, which I think I'll address in a future blog post (...probably).

4. Reach out to far-flung friends and family

I should have immediately spotted the flaw here. Resolutions 3 and 4 are at odds with one another and I chose #3. I did try to maintain a connection though. Marco Polo was really helpful with this and I felt like I was able to maintain closer relationships with people I love who live far away. I spoke regularly with everyone on my list. It wasn't exactly what I had in mind but I think it accomplished the same thing.

5. Take time to be creative

This summer I made my kids do a creative project every day (if you go on to my Instagram you can tap the "Creative Summer" highlight to see some of the projects we did). I'm not going to lie, it was work on my part and required that I tolerate clutter that would normally have me tearing my hair out, but I think it was one of the best things we did all year. The goal was for ME to take more time to be creative and, since I was making my kids be creative, I did find myself sitting to paint, draw, or letter. It's still not as often as I would have liked and it only lasted for the summer, but thinking back on the summer makes me so happy.

Painting with a neighbor friend

6. Be consistent

And here's where it alllll fell apart. I had a sort of perfect storm in 2018 that killed so many of the good habits I worked so hard to put in place in 2016 and 2017. At the beginning of 2018 I knew I'd probably be part of the new PTO board at my kids' school but, after a chain of unexpected events, I was elected PTO president. I decided that, if I was going to do it, I was going to DO IT and also make it easier for everyone who comes after me. This means I've spent a lot of time on PTO- planning events, putting systems into place, and then writing it all down in an operations manual for future boards. It will be so much easier going forward but this year was a lot.

Also, I've felt really crummy. For some reason, my body doesn't like food. It's been coming on slowly for a long time (and it definitely got worse around the time I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's) but it got really bad over the past little while. I tried CrossFit this year (and loved it!) but had to quit after only six months because I just couldn't eat enough food to fuel my body for that kind of exercise without feeling awful. After years of consistently working out, I haven't been to the gym in 4 months. I'm working with a gastroenterologist trying to figure out what's going on with me (had the best nap of my life after an upper GI endoscopy) but the things we've tried so far feel a bit like band-aids. They help...but only kind of.

Overall I had a pretty great year but it also felt like I took some major steps backward. I finished 2017 feeling SO good and then finished 2018 feeling sort of confused and really tired.

That being said, I'm optimistic about this year. I'm adjusting my expectations for myself and my family and hoping to come out of 2019 in a better place.

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Sunday, October 28, 2018

Thoughtful Books for Troubled Times

As a politically progressive ex-Mormon in Mesa, Arizona, I am used to being the black sheep. I may have tweaked my social media feeds into a bit of an echo chamber as of late, but I can't do that with my real life. My friends and family are predominantly religious conservatives, parents at preschool pick-up wear "Hillary for Prison" shirts, and I've worked out next to people who angrily denounced brands that took social stances I stand behind.

It's uncomfortable.

I mostly stay quiet. I am non-confrontational, almost to a fault. But sometimes (rarely! But sometimes), a chance for real conversation arises and I try to be prepared. I try to listen. I try to understand.

It's even more uncomfortable.

But life isn't supposed to be comfortable. And things aren't going to get better if we all insist on comfort, on not listening to other ideas, other experiences. So here are some books for navigating that discomfort and helping us to reach across to the other side.

Jonathan Haidt's The Righteous Mind

I'm a huge Haidt fan- his work is both fascinating and accessible. This book builds upon his Moral Foundations Theory and does a really good job of explaining how good people can end up believing completely opposite things. It's non-partisan - you'll come away feeling validated in your beliefs but also understanding why the things that other people believe are also valid. I read this one early last year and I think I'm due for a re-read.

Justin Lee's Talking Across the Divide

Lee is a gay evangelical Christian and thus is uniquely positioned at the crux of both the left and the right. He's known for his efforts to build bridges between LGBTQ+ and evangelical communities and his book is a master class in both listening and empathy. His recommendations are solid and gave me a lot to think about and practice.

Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me) by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson

I know I JUST recommended this one but it's relevant to this post. Justification plays a large part in politics and this one goes hand-in-hand with Haidt's book. We need to examine our self-justifications and also be able to see the justifications of those around us. This book is also really good at pointing out the power of apologizing and taking responsibility which I think we all need a little more of that these days.

Tribe by Sebastian Junger

This book is about veterans, PTSD, and the difficulty many soldiers have in coming home, all of which is timely and pertinent to today's sociopolitical climate where concern for veterans has been politicized and weaponized. But he also talks about the deep divides we're experiencing, how they're hurting us and where he thinks they come from. This book isn't perfect and there are some solid criticisms out there, but I loved it and it made me think about how I'm contributing to the divide. It's also quite short and a fairly quick and easy read.

Also, an excellent blog post worth the (not inconsiderable) time it takes to read- I Can Tolerate Anything Except the Outgroup from Slate Star Codex

Any books or podcasts or other resources you'd like to add?


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